Before founding Aligned Holistics, I lived a very different life. One that didn’t serve me or anyone around me.
I grew up in a suburb outside of New York City in a family that valued high achievement. As in many Indian families, I was taught that success is an external thing you pursue. An esteemed job you can brag about is like the Holy Grail for many in my culture, and I bought into that concept hard. Eventually I learned what success and happiness really meant, but that was not until I exhausted every other option.
Continuing the theme of seeking happiness outside myself, I began a love-hate relationship with medication at 14. Anti-depressants, mood stabilizers, ADD medication, sleep aids. You name it, I took it.
I loved having a diagnosis; it was a label that could define me and explain the way I felt. I aligned with terms like “depression,” “anxiety disorder,” “bipolar disorder.” The label changed depending on when or whom you asked, but it comforted me. It reaffirmed my victim mentality: that I had no choices and this was “just who I am.” Not surprisingly, matters got worse. Beyond the constant adjustments and side effect balancing game, it confirmed the belief that true happiness was an external thing I had to “get.”
I felt flawed, broken, and alone.
Years, relationships, and many poor coping mechanisms later, I had my “Aha!” moment and decided not to be a victim anymore.
It wasn’t for a person, a pill, or a thing to fix. I wasn’t broken. It was the most empowering moment of my life and my life immediately changed. I’m not going to lie- it took work. After all, I had to rewire decades of learned behaviors. I was drawn to a coach who helped me to learn new ways of eating, new coping mechanisms, and the principles of self-care. We worked to integrate these practices into my life in a way that worked for me. She didn’t fix me, she did something even better: she helped me to save myself.
I could go on and on about the weight I lost or how my skin looks (both fabulous!), but the real transformation was internal. I no longer needed medication, things, or people to make me happy.
My first career in philanthropy taught me the value of service, but inside I knew I needed to serve on a different level, in a different way. My story energizes me. I have gratitude for the good in my life and for the struggles that brought me to where I am today. I formed Aligned Holistics to help others find their health and happiness.
My story has been featured on CBS to inspire others to create a life they love.