3 Steps to Regain Your Happiness

Do you ever feel like things are spiraling out of control? Like there are a million things to do? Like you hardly recognize yourself?

Last week I struggled with a painful soul assignment, feeling a loss of control, and a disconnect from my higher self.

While I’m not Catholic, I celebrated Easter with my brother’s family. (Any excuse for cute dresses and ham!) During the sermon, a light bulb went off.

I need a resurrection. I need to bring love and light back into the places where I thought there was only darkness.

I realized that many of my friends and clients were experiencing the same loss of control in varying forms: emotional wounds, career issues, and health concerns.

Sure, I’d like to blame the full moon or eclipse, but the truth is that sometimes things feel like a crazy carnival ride that you can’t get off. The good news is that at any point you have everything you need to regain control of your life. You can choose to shine light into the corners you’ve forgotten.

  1. The Warning Signs. It’s rare that you just wake up one day and things are suddenly out of control. There are usually signs: you’re not sleeping well, your mood is off, you’re afraid to confront your friends or your inbox. These signs bring you to your moment of awareness.
  2. The Awareness. Now what? You noticed you have a problem. You can continue to ignore it, eat/drink/work/get angry OVER the problem, or try something new.
  3. The Choice. What is your ideal outcome in this situation? What would it take to get there? If what you’re doing isn’t giving you the results you desire, it’s time to try something new. The beauty is that you have a choice: You can choose to change your approach. You can choose to take some time for yourself. You can choose to prioritize.

It’s not about perfection, beating yourself up for not having dealt with something sooner, or having everything under control. It’s about progress, taking decisive action to connect with yourself and try something new. And sometimes the new action is non-action, meditating for 5 min, calling a friend, journaling to feel your emotions, or going for a walk.

Ultimately, new actions yield new results. How can you shine light onto the darkness? How can you empower yourself? 

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