Are You An Over-Achiever? 7 Tips to Get Out Of Your Own Way


If you’re an over-achiever, you are probably thinking 1 of 3 things:

  1. There’s no such thing.
  2. I like things to be perfect, what’s wrong with that?
  3. You are in such denial, that you’re rolling your eyes right now.

Whether you think you’re an overachiever or not, we all get a little crazed from time to time. Here are

7 Tips to Get Out of Your Own Way:

  1. Unplug. If the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night is look at your phone, it’s time to unplug.  It’s virtually impossible to have a healthy work-life balance when you’re obsessing over what needs to be done. Set aside a few times each day to look at your phone and make every effort to stick to it. Yes, that includes Facebook.
  2. Stay out of it. Let’s take that unplug from #1 and extend it to other areas of your life. I’m not saying you should live in a cave, but limiting your negative news intake, gossip time, and need to stay on top of all the latest events will give you the opportunity to shift your energy inward and clue into your own life.
  3. Ask yourself “Why?” Sure, you want to conquer the world, but if you’re waking up at 5 am to exercise, work a job, create a side-hustle, go out for happy hour, and try to be a loving friend/partner/parent, one has to ask, “why.” Seriously. You may tell yourself “that’s just how it is,” or “I need to keep up with everyone else.” But, in all honesty, it sounds more like you achieve to feel validated and worthy.  What could you do to give that to yourself instead?
  4. Say “no.” It seems like pleasing others will make them like you more, but does it make you like yourself? If you say “yes” when you really want to say “no,” it’s a sign that you’re acting from a place of guilt, fear, or low self-worth. Set some boundaries.  People will actually like you more if you are your whole, authentic self.
  5. Look at who you surround yourself with. Are you spending all your time with competitive and negative people? Limit your exposure to people who bring you down and you will naturally be attracted to people who inspire and ignite your inner soul fire.  
  6. Amp up the self-love. What can you do that’s just for you? Is there a hobby you’ve stopped participating in? When’s the last time you lit a candle and took a bath? Do things each day that contribute to your self-care. Make it a non-negotiable, not a once-in-a-while activity.  The act of valuing yourself as much as you value others will shift that need-to-please mentality. 
  7. Stop complaining. When you bitch and moan, I don’t like you. You don’t like you. Instead of telling the Universe what you don’t want, why not state what you do want?  Replace the negativity with positivity and see the shift it makes in your life, relationships, and career.

Ultimately, it’s not about achieving more, it’s about achieving more of what’s right for you. And that requires being your authentic self. Try these 7 tips and get ready to have more joy and less stress.