A few days ago I was speaking with a client in her early 30s who asked, “Is what we talk about normal? I mean, what do all your other clients struggle with? Am I normal?”
And that got me thinking. I see people all over the world of all ages and there are ~10 problems I help them to solve. Sure, the names, places, and details are different, but ultimately the same issues repeat themselves. So, in an effort to help normalize our experiences, and since we never have the benefit of knowing what people talk about in session, I thought I’d share the Top 10 Reasons Clients See Me:
1. "I don’t know what I want to do with my life."
This general feeling is akin to “I’m stuck and I don’t know why.” It may seem like a large & overwhelming problem, but it's usually a lot simpler than we make it out to be. If you’d like to explore this in less than 10 minutes, check out my article on Huffington Post here.
2. "Am I in the right relationship?"
We figure out what you want, what you don’t want, and how you're contributing to the issue. (Yup, it's not all his fault!) From there, we discuss ways to strengthen your current relationship or a game plan to attract one that's truly nourishing.
3. "I need to find a career I love."
This issue is big. And it’s not just people in their 20s. Whether it’s a career or a passion, we all need help getting over the idea of “practicality.” Through exercises and exploration, we figure out what you truly want and action steps to get there.
4. "I don’t know how to make a decision, take action, or come up with a plan."
I like this one. Sometimes, I am this one. We all have a hard time seeing a situation clearly when we’re in the middle of it. I help clients to clear out the fog, drill down to the core of the issue, and take steps in the right direction.
5. "I can’t manage my time or find a balance in life."
This usually presents as:
- “I’m spending my time doing things for others”
- “I don’t have enough time in the day for everything”
- “I don’t know where my time goes”
Once we make sure the basic organizational skills are in place, we delve into the issue and determine what matters and what doesn’t. We also figure out how can you do more of what you love and less of what you can’t stand.
6. "I’m addicted to (behavior, person, etc.)"
Whether it’s a person, a substance, an unhealthy situation, or simply a bad habit, we draw on multiple goals in one. We work on moving toward what you want, adding in new behaviors to crowd the old ones out, forgiveness, compassion, and self-care.
7: "I feel crappy and I don’t want to go straight to medication."
I’ve shared my story of being over-medicated on CBS, The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, and my blog. So it’s no surprise that people are curious about how I did it. There is a time and a place for medication. And while I don’t claim that my personal journey is a one-size-fits-all approach, I do feel that we all need to learn tools and positive coping mechanisms. Together, we strengthen your emotional muscles to create a life you love.
8. "I wish (person/situation) were different, but I don’t know what to do."
I get it. Sometimes I wish things were different, too. After that, I either accept it or create a plan to change my situation. Ultimately, no matter the circumstance, it’s your job to create what you want. If you want me to help you plot revenge or simply validate that your boss is a jerk, I’m not the right person for you. If you want to do something productive about it, give me a call.
9. "I want to start a business, but I don't know where to start."
I can’t tell you how many coaches, writers, and creative entrepreneurs I’ve worked with. I love it. I tell people exactly what I did, how I did it, and what to avoid. I made mistakes so you don't have to. We work on everything from websites to methodology to how to land your first guest post.
10. "I know what to do, but I’m just not doing it."
I genuinely enjoy troubleshooting. It puts my creativity and neuroticism to good use. We discuss how to implement new habits, why you aren’t taking action, and come up with a plan to make it happen. Loving ass-kickings included.
The real question is, what are you prepared to do about it? If you're ready to take action, click here.